Building Your Belief
My father always used to say “The Truth is what you Believe”, and I know now that this IS really true. It's true in the sense that what we believe becomes truth in our lives and we live according to what we accept to be fact. When we were young, we were told things by our parents, and we just accepted them, and at the time, there was nothing wrong with that.
Have you ever heard a speech that went on for too long?
Have you ever given a speech that went on for too long?
I have...to both of those questions.
Most speakers don't ask themselves why they are speaking, they are just concerned with what they plan to speak about.
Having a topic, a story, and a lesson that you want to share is a good thing. Yet, there is a difference between knowing what you want to share and knowing what you want your audience to do about what you plan on sharing.
Asking yourself the following 3 questions before you get on stage will keep you focused on what you need to add or leave out of your speech. Not knowing the answers may result in you getting applause, but it likely won't result in the audience actually taking action. Answering these questions will set you apart from most speakers, and you will even have listeners coming up to you days and even weeks from now, saying “I applied your advice, and it worked. Thank you!”
That is a great feeling to have.
You have probably heard that there are 3 learning types: Visual, Auditory and Kinesthetic learners. Typically, we are taught about recognizing our own learning type, and that is important. However, as a speaker, it is also important to be cognizant of learning types that you use when you speak, and to ensure that you speak to all types during your talks.
Many speakers ignore this – to their detriment. Learn how to speak to your Visual, Auditory and Kinesthetic learners in these 3 areas and you will literally see, hear and feel your connection with your audience grow with each talk that you give!
Nervous when you speak?
Me too. Every time.
Mark Twain once said that “There are two types of speakers: those that are nervous and those that are liars.”
Here is the thing. Everyone gets nervous when they speak. The difference between average speakers and great ones is whether or not they let their nerves overwhelm them. The word nervous actually comes from the Latin word meaning 'vigorous'. Vigorous means strong, healthy and full of energy! The best speakers understand that nerves are the body's response telling us “I'm ready to go!!”
And now you're thinking, “That's all fine and good, but that knowledge doesn't help me when I'm on the stage!!”
Okay, here are 3 strategies that will...
Whether you are new to speaking, or have been speaking for a long time, you are likely aware that you need to include stories in your speeches. Stories teach at a visual level (as explained in my “5 Steps to Your Next Speech” article), and the best speakers are often the best storytellers. However, there are 3 steps to take with your story to engage your audience at a deeper level. If you do not follow them, your story, as significant and powerful as it may be, will not have the effect that it could have. When you keep the following 3 steps outlined below, your story will have impact AND hit the mark with your audience. So let's get to it, here are the 3 R's to Successful Storytelling.
Kwesi Millington helps speakers, presenters and youth to connect with their audiences and master their messages using the power of storytelling in their speeches & presentations. He is a Certified Public Speaking Coach & Youth Mentor.