Let's stop talking about Confidence.
Just cultivate it and nurture it daily.
Remember these 3 words.
CERTAINTY. CONSISTENCY. CONGRUENCY.
If you are certain about something. Talk about that. Start there. What are YOU certain about?
What are 3 words that describe who you are?
What are 3 words that describe how others would describe you?
Live in that certainty. That will give you confidence.
I have had to rebuild confidence at many points in my life. I took steps to rebuild my confidence, over and over again, and I found what works repeatedly. I then started to realize that the SAME steps that I was using, were used by some of the biggest self-development names I've ever heard, from Zig Ziglar, to Brian Tracy, to Tony Robbins, to Les Brown.
I am now CERTAIN about these steps. When I share them with others, I have NO hesitation in doing so, and that gives me confidence to talk – about confidence – unequivocally.
What are YOU certain about?
The first time I lifted a weight, I hated it.
I didn't like gyms. I didn't like being seen in a gym.
Then I started lifting more often. Then I became a Personal Trainer. But there was only one reason that I want from fearful to fearless in a gym – Consistency.
Anything that you do will create Consistency, and will in turn create Confidence in that area. ANYTHING.
So there are only 2 questions to answer from here:
That is how you build Confidence. Period.
When you open your mouth, what do you talk to people about?
What advice do you give others?
What do you say you believe in and value?
Are you LIVING those things?
If not, it will eat away at you. You can't continually speak with strength about something that you are not living as well. If you tell people to do what you are not doing (or trying to do), the subconscious mind of your listener will pick up on it. Your message will lack the strength necessary to truly impact.
There is an old saying in the hip-hop community: “Don't talk about it, BE about it.”
Simply stated, “If you talk about it, BE about it.”
What are you CERTAIN about?
What do you need to be CONSISTENTLY doing?
Are you living CONGRUENTLY?
Kwesi Millington helps speakers to connect with their audiences and master their messages using the power of storytelling in their speeches & presentations. He is a Certified Public Speaking Coach & Youth Mentor.