I dare you to dig deep for your stories...I double DARE you.
When you think of finding stories, you likely have found out that stories can be everywhere. They can be events that happened to you a long time ago, or simple moments that are very recent and taught you a life lesson. If you took a logical approach to finding stories in the past, I'll challenge you to take a slightly different approach – get emotional.
Many speakers fail to make an emotional connection with their audience, because they develop their story, then try to add areas that can evoke emotion. Here's something to try – reverse the process. Instead of thinking of emotion after, start with it. Begin by “Finding the Feeling Place” - search for specific emotions, then ask, “What story brought that out of me?” For this blog, think of the acronym D.A.R.E. For 4 specific emotions to feel, then bring the corresponding story out from.
I took my first Uber ride in 2016. I wasn't avoiding the company for any particular reason. However, I just thought I'd try something new.
After the ride, I decided one thing: I'm not going back to regular taxi cab rides ever again.
Why? Is it because the Uber ride was so much better? Was the driver the nicest person I'd ever driven with? Did they give me superior service?
None of the above. Sure, the app is cool – you can look at exactly where your driver is and follow them online as they get closer to you. And yes, the driver was friendly. The service was pretty good too. However, the reason I'll go with Uber is simple – the ride was cheaper.
Nothing mind-boggling. The ride was cheaper, the app is cool, I'm going with Uber over taxi. Along with thousands of others. Why?
Not sure what to speak about? This is a common problem I get asked when it comes to storytelling. There are endless places to get your stories, but here are just a few:
Finding Speech Topics comes down to your 5Fs
“Courage is fear holding on a minute longer.” (George S. Patton)
Do you have courage? As a speaker, your answer is absolutely yes. Just standing up on stage as we know, is something that most people will never attempt to do. However, speaking is the start of courage – what you speak about is when it really turns to bravery.
There are still speakers that will not touch certain topics in their own lives. That is a shame because they are missing out on an opportunity for true connection with their audience. When you get personal, you can pull your audience in at a much greater level.
Here are 3 areas of courage to consider:
Kwesi Millington helps speakers, presenters and youth to connect with their audiences and master their messages using the power of storytelling in their speeches & presentations. He is a Certified Public Speaking Coach & Youth Mentor.