Do you use the 5P Speaking words when you hit the stage?
I'll guarantee you this: most don't, and if they do, it's probably by accident. However, if you focus on these words, you can turn a dull presentation into a dynamic one.
Remember it's not always WHAT you say, but HOW you say it. And these work in everyday conversation as much as they do on stage.
I dare you to dig deep for your stories...I double DARE you.
When you think of finding stories, you likely have found out that stories can be everywhere. They can be events that happened to you a long time ago, or simple moments that are very recent and taught you a life lesson. If you took a logical approach to finding stories in the past, I'll challenge you to take a slightly different approach – get emotional.
Many speakers fail to make an emotional connection with their audience, because they develop their story, then try to add areas that can evoke emotion. Here's something to try – reverse the process. Instead of thinking of emotion after, start with it. Begin by “Finding the Feeling Place” - search for specific emotions, then ask, “What story brought that out of me?” For this blog, think of the acronym D.A.R.E. For 4 specific emotions to feel, then bring the corresponding story out from.
I believe it was Mary Kay who said that everyone has an invisible sign around their neck that reads “Make me feel Special”.
Everyone wants to feel important. There is a reason that Dale Carnegie says that your name is the most important word in any language to you. Most speakers believe that they are special, and that the audience is simply there to soak in what they have to say. As speakers, we are not gurus. We simply borrow advice from the Universe, our mentors, and those that have gone before us, and we share it. Let's work on making our audiences the stars of our talks, not ourselves.
How do you make each audience that you speak to feel special? One word: Customization.
Use any of the following 5 methods when you speak to customize your talk for each audience that you share it with. Keep in mind that these can be small adjustments that you make to an already existing talk. Make these small additions to your speech, and your audience will truly feel unique and special.
I took my first Uber ride in 2016. I wasn't avoiding the company for any particular reason. However, I just thought I'd try something new.
After the ride, I decided one thing: I'm not going back to regular taxi cab rides ever again.
Why? Is it because the Uber ride was so much better? Was the driver the nicest person I'd ever driven with? Did they give me superior service?
None of the above. Sure, the app is cool – you can look at exactly where your driver is and follow them online as they get closer to you. And yes, the driver was friendly. The service was pretty good too. However, the reason I'll go with Uber is simple – the ride was cheaper.
Nothing mind-boggling. The ride was cheaper, the app is cool, I'm going with Uber over taxi. Along with thousands of others. Why?
Kwesi Millington helps speakers, presenters and youth to connect with their audiences and master their messages using the power of storytelling in their speeches & presentations. He is a Certified Public Speaking Coach & Youth Mentor.