Have you ever heard a great speaker? Have you ever sat through a monotonous school lecture?
What was the difference? Chances are there are 2 main areas that separate the speaker from the lecturer:
Your ego has become a wall between yourself and me. You're not really concerned about me, are you? You're mostly concerned about whether or not this speech is really working... about whether or not you're doing a good job. You're really afraid that I will not applaud, aren't you? You're afraid that I won't laugh at your jokes or cry over your emotional anecdotes. You are so caught up in the issue of how I am going to receive your speech, you haven't thought much about me at all. I might have loved you, but you are so caught up in self-love that mine is really unnecessary. If I don't give you my attention, it's because I feel so unnecessary here.” (Calvin Miller, “The Empowered Communicator”)
I recently attended a Tony Robbins seminar, and I'll be honest. It had been a long day and when I heard that Tony would be speaking near the END of the day....for over THREE hours, let's just say that my excitement was tempered.
Now, if you have ever seen Tony Robbins live, you will know that 3 hours is NOTHING for him. However, I did not know what to expect AT ALL.
After leaving that day, I was MORE energized than when he started, and the 3 hours FLEW by!! Now I'm not going to simplify the magic that is Tony Robbins, but in one sentence he did this:
HE KEPT HIS AUDIENCE “IN THE GAME”!
When you speak, it is NOT a monologue. It is not just about you speaking to the audience. It should be like passing the ball back and forth so that your listeners feel involved! It WILL be mostly YOU yes, but it is not ALL about you.
Everyone wants to give their audience the “warm and fuzzies”. Correction...everyone wants to leave their audience either:
Follow these 3 suggestions, and connect with even the flattest group. Don't do them, and watch your information get filed under 'f' for forgotten.
Here are the 3 ways to apply to ensure that your cold audience will not only warm up to you, but remember what you say, apply it in their lives, and...ask “when is she coming back?”
Kwesi Millington helps speakers, presenters and youth to connect with their audiences and master their messages using the power of storytelling in their speeches & presentations. He is a Certified Public Speaking Coach & Youth Mentor.